The one thing I realised this diwali.That as a youngster,as we grow older,We are no longer reluctant to work.We dont feel ashamed to do household chores,help our parents,go on to buy things for home stuff.We understand how hard our mother works at home and how father has to struggle out.This realisation makes us render them help.When we are young(in children stage) we feel annoyed when we were asked by our parents to do something.We refused to do it.We got bored with that work.We found ways to avoid them and find some way to escape out.It is something called as 'child tantrums'.It remains in us till the adolescent age.
What I feel is that,probably we are entering a new phase of our life.Something that is called in our culture as - Grihast^ashram. Gṛhastha (Sanskrit: गृहस्थ) literally means "being in and occupied with home, family" or "householder".It refers to the second phase of an individual's life in a four age-based stages of the Hindu asrama system.Viz.Brahmacharya (student), Gṛhastha (householder), Vanaprastha (forest walker/forest dweller), and Sannyasa (renunciate).
It is next stage of celibacy (bachelor student) life stage.It includes a married life, with the duties of maintaining a home, raising a family, educating one's children, and leading a family-centred and a dharmic social life.(Source-Āśrama Upanishad, the Vaikhanasa Dharmasutra and the later Dharmashastra,Google)
Well this is a transition from a less responsible,less accountable,dependent being to a mature,experienced and more bold being.This is how our society socializes us to carry its norms further and maintain social harmony and solidarity.These rules of society are obscure and we behave and walk with the flow.We learn to make adjustments and are more understanding.Well we are matured now.
We dont feel embarrassed of talking about taboos,love life,marriage,sexuality,family planning,mental pressures,matured political views and much more.We also share our emotions with our loved ones.Conscisely speaking,we are out of that adolescence now,which earlier restricted us to do so.
We become calm and peaceful,not desperate,frantic,or irrational.Neither we get easily offended by anyone.We are ready to accept the views of others and keep our own views firmly.The best thing I personally have observed is,we are no longer fearful of being alone.We enjoy our solitude.We talk to ourself and are able to solve half of our problems there.
Talking about a scenario we all may have experienced.There was a time when we enjoyed eating chocolates & wafers.We were so desperate about it that sometimes we not even shared it with our siblings.But now,whenever our young brother/sister or nephew/niece comes to us and asks to have her wafers or chocolate with her eyes sparkling with joy.We smile at her and say- "No,you have it !" she nods obediently and we keep smiling at her.At that time we understand,why our parents did the same when we were kids.And we can feel we have really grown up.We enjoy the happiness of others.We want people around us to be happy and smiling.
We dont feel embarrassed of talking about taboos,love life,marriage,sexuality,family planning,mental pressures,matured political views and much more.We also share our emotions with our loved ones.Conscisely speaking,we are out of that adolescence now,which earlier restricted us to do so.
We become calm and peaceful,not desperate,frantic,or irrational.Neither we get easily offended by anyone.We are ready to accept the views of others and keep our own views firmly.The best thing I personally have observed is,we are no longer fearful of being alone.We enjoy our solitude.We talk to ourself and are able to solve half of our problems there.
Talking about a scenario we all may have experienced.There was a time when we enjoyed eating chocolates & wafers.We were so desperate about it that sometimes we not even shared it with our siblings.But now,whenever our young brother/sister or nephew/niece comes to us and asks to have her wafers or chocolate with her eyes sparkling with joy.We smile at her and say- "No,you have it !" she nods obediently and we keep smiling at her.At that time we understand,why our parents did the same when we were kids.And we can feel we have really grown up.We enjoy the happiness of others.We want people around us to be happy and smiling.
Well this is all in scientific terms about Mental and Emotional maturity.A transition phase of our life,which is getting us ready to fight the battles of life; we have all heard till now from our elders.It takes time to realise it in actual terms.But till then,"Smile please !" You are under surveillance of life.All the very best.
-Prasad Saroja Dattatraya Kaloji
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